How to Support a Loved One Diagnosed with Breast Cancer

By Sabrina Lynch, LCP, LCPC

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In 2021, when I was diagnosed with breast cancer, I was scared. There’s no other way to put it. I was afraid of dying. I realized that I had to share this information with those who loved me so that I could have a village around me as I dealt with such a reality. Once I did that, I decided that I would put my best foot forward to survive and have since learned a great deal about what I need from those around me as I take on the battle. Here are 5 ways in which you can be a helpful and supportive asset to someone going through the fight.

1. Don’t be afraid. Be encouraging. Chances are the person diagnosed is experiencing enough fear. It’s time to focus on the light in order to give them the courage and strength to move forward. Prayers, encouraging words, little acts of kindness (i.e. a card) can go a long way. Remember, whatever you focus on expands in your experience. 
2. Be supportive. Reach out to them and ask them how they’re doing. Offer them rides to/from treatment. Cook or bring them meals, as they are likely wiped out after treatments or surgery. Offer a helping hand with things around the house or with their children (if applicable).
3. Be gentle when bringing up the “c” word. It can be traumatizing to hear, so be sure to use the same language that the person uses when referring to their condition.
4. Don’t fight or argue with the person regarding their choices. This causes an immense amount of unnecessary stress in the body, which does not support good health. Respect everyone’s right to choose what to do with their body. Recommend, don’t argue.
5. Love on them. Give them love according to their love language. If their love language is physical touch, give them hugs and massages (with their consent). Fix something for them if they like acts of service. Remember that love and light is what helps things to thrive. 

No one ever imagines that they will be the one diagnosed with a life-threatening disease. No one ever calls on it. But having what you need from those who love you makes the fight that much more tolerable. It helps carry you through. 

About The Author

Sabrina Lynch is a Licensed Mental Health Therapist and owner of Serenity Wellness, LLC, a wellness company. She takes on a holistic approach to help others live their best lives. 

She can be contacted on Instagram: @blackspiritualtherapist and TikTok: @blackspiritualtherapist.