Black Men and Vulnerability: A Journey Towards Emotional Liberation By Amethyst Roberson, LPC, NCC
By Lisa Savage | Jun 12, 2023
Vulnerability, a word often associated with weakness or fear, holds an unparalleled power that goes unrecognized in many societies. For Black men, vulnerability, or the willingness to express emotions, is often suppressed due to societal stereotypes and expectations. However, a closer look reveals that embracing vulnerability can lead to emotional wellness that requires courage, strength, and authenticity.
Raising awareness about the importance of vulnerability, particularly for Black men, is a significant step. The societal expectation for Black men to continuously exhibit strength and resilience often leaves little room for emotional expression, creating a barrier to vulnerability. The narrative that equates vulnerability with weakness is not only misleading but harmful. It’s crucial to acknowledge that vulnerability is not a weakness but a testament to one’s courage to face and express their emotions.
The goal-setting step involves fostering an environment that allows Black men to express their vulnerability safely. The goal isn’t to challenge or change cultural narratives overnight but to gradually create spaces and mindsets where vulnerability is accepted and embraced. It’s about encouraging Black men to express their emotions without fear of judgment or rejection.
Progressing towards this goal involves developing a range of skills. Emotional intelligence refers to the capacity to comprehend and regulate emotions effectively. In addition, skills like effective communication, self-compassion, and empathy also play essential roles. Regularly practicing these skills can lead to a better understanding of one’s emotions and a greater comfort in expressing them.
Implementing these skills in everyday life is the next step. It might involve consciously acknowledging and expressing emotions, engaging in activities that foster emotional expressions, like journaling or art, or seeking professional help when needed. The implementation stage can be challenging, but remember, every step toward expressing vulnerability is emotional liberation.
As these skills are practiced and implemented, a transformation begins to occur. For example, black men might notice a newfound comfort in expressing emotions, decreased stress or anxiety, or improved relationships. This transformation signifies a successful journey toward embracing vulnerability.
Flourishing is the stage beyond transformation. It’s about thriving emotionally, having the freedom to express emotions without fear, and inspiring others to do the same. Flourishing involves using emotional wellness to foster deeper connections, improve mental health, and advocate for a more empathetic and understanding society.
In conclusion, vulnerability, far from being a weakness, is a strength that can lead to emotional wellness and authenticity. For Black men, embracing vulnerability can mean breaking free from harmful stereotypes and moving towards emotional liberation. The journey from insight, awareness, goal setting, progress, implementation, and transformation to flourishing may not be easy, but it is a journey toward a more authentic, fulfilling life. A life where expressing emotions is not seen as a weakness but as a testament to one’s strength and authenticity.
About The Author
A R Therapy & Consulting LLC is owned by Amethyst Roberson, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), National Certified Counselor (NCC), and a Certified Care Ready Life Coach. With her extensive experience in therapy, Amethyst is dedicated to providing quality service to her community. Amethyst has a proven track record of success in providing therapy services to individuals, couples, and families. She specializes in working with clients dealing with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. Her contribution to any organization is invaluable, as she brings a wealth of knowledge and expertise that can help improve the support and assistance we provide to those we serve. In addition, Amethyst’s leadership skills and passion for serving others make her an asset to any team.